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Let Go of Judgment–No Good Comes From It!

Daniel A. Miller | December 20, 2022

Do you ever find yourself rolling your eyes over what someone does? Or shaking your head in judgment of their choices or the way they are? Or find yourself thinking or saying things like “You’re doing it all wrong!”, “He talks too much”, or “They’re way too indulgent with their kids.”

These kinds of gratuitous, self-righteous judgments, some would say, “are none of our business.”They have a certain “know-it-all-ness” to them; a “we know better” than others. Yet, little do we know or consider the reasons or contexts in which people act or make their decisions. Nor do we account for our personal biases and prejudices.

Moreover, such judgments can easily invoke resentment and push people away, and divert our attention from making better choices for ourselves. In many respects, judging is a diversionary tactic that distracts us from taking stock of our lives and improving our own shortcomings. And it doesn’t change how people believe or act in any meaningful sense. If anything, judging puts people on the defensive and their views become hardened.

In short, no good comes from it!

As a controller by nature, the judgment barrier has been an ongoing challenge for me to overcome. It’s such an ingrained habit, that much of the time I am not aware that I’m judging. It takes many forms; some overt, some subtle. Criticizing, admonishing, shaming, being smug, dismissive, and sarcastic are a few prevalent ways we judge. So, too, sneers and snide smiles and other body language convey judgment. I’ve done them all.

The thing is, many of my judgments have proved to be dead wrong. During my first year of law school, I harshly judged one of my classmates while waiting for the instructor to arrive. The classroom had rows of desks tiered upward toward the back on rising levels. My classmate suddenly jumped on top of his desk in the rear and boldly walked on top of desks to the front of the room.

Most classmates laughed loudly. Not me. I was very angry. I thought, “What a jerk and a-hole. All he wants is attention.” I didn’t want to have anything to do with him after that.

Five years after we graduated law school this “jerk” became my most trusted friend and later was the best man at my wedding! He did continue to draw a lot of attention, though. He selflessly served as the Public Defender of Los Angeles County for over fifteen years, supervising over 700 attorneys, and was widely recognized for his efforts in helping reform state and national criminal justice systems.

So I guess I misjudged! And the irony of it is not lost on me: his last name was Judge. I miss him dearly.

So, I often ask myself why do I continue to judge so much? What is my motive? Does it make me feel better or superior in some way? Maybe for a short moment, but it’s a sure sign of my lack of humility. I also ponder what purpose it serves. Do I think it will change or help the other person in some way? Sometimes I do, but it rarely does, if at all. And no one’s ever thanked me for my judgments, that’s for sure!

It has also occurred to me that my judging may be an indication of some shortcoming in myself. Concerning the incident with my law school classmate, for example, I was a very reserved, even shy person. Perhaps seeing someone be so bold, carefree, and “out there” accentuated my own insecurities.

Above all, I believe to judge less, we need to be more accepting. When we accept people and things as they are, there is little need for us to judge them.

Let’s begin the new year by letting go of judging!

Here are a few Inquiries and Reflections that can help you do that:

Make note of your judgments for a day, or even half a day. Be sure to include the silent ones that you keep to yourself.

What feelings or beliefs are behind your judgments? Do they serve any useful purpose?

How often do you judge yourself? What do you gain by it? Are they the same kinds of things that you judge others by?

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In the meantime, Let It Go—and Accept “What Is!”

Danny

*Part of this post was taken from my upcoming book, “The Wave: Navigating Life’s Currents.” Please leave your email address at info@losingcontrolfindingsrenity.com to receive special discount pricing when the book is published.

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Challenges of Practicing Acceptance in 2022

Daniel A. Miller | January 5, 2022

How to Practice Acceptance

It seems like every day I am faced with unexpected situations and occurrences that need accepting. Most are relatively minor disturbances, really, such as home delivery or installation times being changed at the last minute, a computer glitch or loss of Internet service when I am working to meet a deadline, or a driver cutting in front of me on the freeway without warning.

In such situations, if I forget that life is not governed by my desires and expectations—which I am still prone to do—I can easily get flustered, frustrated—and sometimes angry–until I remind myself that such annoyances are beyond my control, and that the best thing for my mental well-being is to accept “what is.”

I say this because even after having written a best-selling, award winning book on acceptance, practicing acceptance remains an ongoing, everyday challenge for me. It requires my constant awareness whether I am controlling; knowing when I am powerless over changing people and situations; not being judgmental and smug; and not taking the disturbing words and actions of others too personally.

(The acceptance stories I share in my posts and in The Gifts of Acceptance offer guidance in dealing with challenging acceptance situations that many of us regularly encounter.)

I am comforted that acceptance becomes easier and more natural with continued practice that changes our mental muscle memory—those deeply ingrained patterns and attitudes of judging, denying, resisting, expecting, and controlling.

Even incremental steps and partial successes in practicing acceptance make our lives easier. And while practice may not make perfect, it does lead to improvement.

We all have our acceptance experiences—good and bad–and we can help and learn from one another by sharing them. I hope you will consider sharing your acceptance stories with me and others this year at www.danielamiller.com.

In closing, like many, I am troubled by the divisiveness that confronts us as we enter 2022. I strongly believe we need to practice acceptance more than ever. I invite you to read “Acceptance Conversations as Peacemakers.”

In the meantime, remember to

Let It Go—and Accept “What Is!”

Danny

*You can read an excerpt of the new book I am writing, The Wave: Navigating Life’s Currents, here!

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The Wave: Navigating Life’s Currents

Daniel A. Miller | November 10, 2021

I wanted to acquaint you with a new book I am writing. Its title is The Wave: Navigating Life’s Currents.

The mystery, randomness, and freeness of ocean waves (high and low tides, riptides and undertows, crests, swells, murky waters, etc.) serve as a metaphor for an expansive life path that closely parallels surfing or riding waves.

The book explores how we can meaningfully navigate the currents in all aspects of our lives—work, love, friendships, parenting, aging, sports and performance, and creative endeavors, and enjoy the many gifts that follow.

Formidable wave “barriers” such as control, judgment, fear, denial, high expectations, limited thinking, and unclear boundaries are examined together with wave “enhancers” such as trust, acceptance, humility, and intuition.

Below is an excerpt from The Wave. I welcome your comments, suggestions, and experiences about riding the wave.

If you wish to be kept abreast of the book’s progress and receive future excerpts, please email info@losingcontrolfindingserenity.com

And remember to,

Let It Go-and Accept “What Is!”

Danny

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THE WAVE

” When you observe nature for any period, you can sense the presence of a natural process or rhythm. You may notice it in the way leaves fall from a tree, gently floating down to form eloquent patterns on the grass. Or as I first did, watching the way ocean waves build, crest, flow and change course in an endless variety of movements.

At such moments, we sense that the life force or energy we are experiencing is unpredictable and unknowable yet has an innate and vast intelligence all its own, one well beyond our capacity to understand.

We also realize that, as mysterious as this universal rhythm is, we are a part of it.

I refer to this rhythm as the Wave or life’s currents. It is intrinsically truthful and cannot be controlled or manipulated. It just “is”, and though it may feel ancient, it is always present.

There is a noticeable cohesiveness to it; a harmony of co-existence; a wisdom and mystery waiting to be discovered.

Ralph Waldo Emerson poetically described this rhythm of truth as:“There is a guidance for each of us, and by lowly listening we shall hear the right word…Place yourself in the middle of the stream of power and wisdom which flows into you as life…then you are without effort impelled to truth, to right and a perfect contentment.”

Before that day at the beach many years ago, I had no inkling of such a guidance. I had been too engulfed in futile battles and engagements.

Today I feel the comfort of its presence when I sit in my back yard early mornings, listening to the cheerful medleys of song birds and the cooing of doves, watching the branches of my magnificent olive tree gently swaying as they reach toward the sky, and the ground squirrels scampering around its limbs.

Indeed, I feel it in the stillness and solitude of nature most anywhere; when I hug an oak tree; inhale the strong aroma of eucalyptus leaves; or watch colorful humming birds darting from flower to flower.

I also feel it most of the time when I’m painting or channeling verses that occasionally lead to poems.

I have come to learn that the more I am able to live my life in harmony with this natural rhythm, or ride the Wave, the more I am able to discover solutions to my most pressing and troubling concerns and enjoy the unplanned, spontaneous moments in life and marvel at the beauty all around me.

That is not to say that the rides are always smooth or easy, or without low tides and riptides. I tumble often. The difference now is that it is not for as long or as severe because I am more aware of how and why I slipped and have learned some ways to return.

Like Emerson, I believe “there is a guidance for each of us.” It is up to me to lowly listen and place myself in the middle of the stream of power and wisdom. Writing this book is part of my endeavor to do that and I hope encourage readers to discover their waves.

It also is to remind me that I am not the only wave in the ocean and that I need to accept, respect, and honor the waves of others, lest I find myself “making waves!”

As expressed earlier, for me the metaphor that comes closest to the vision of aligning with this natural rhythm are ocean waves. The mystery, randomness, and freeness of waves closely parallel the expansive life path I am seeking.

Think about bodysurfing in the challenges you face. There will be a great variety of waves, some building up quickly and crashing mightily, others cresting more gradually and lasting longer. Some will simply vanish. Many will change course.

We have no control or influence on their patterns, paths, and frequencies; we can only be patient and alert as we await them.

As soon as one crests near us, we extend our arms, swim a few strokes, and try to glide with it. We make adjustments along the way, if needed. If we encounter turbulence, which we often will, we can protect ourselves; for example, wrapping our hands around our head if we are forcefully thrown asunder, or pulling out of the currents or diving beneath the waves.

Much of the time, though unpredictable, the ride will be smoother and often enjoyable, and at times even exhilarating. And the lows not as severe or as long.

In a similar vein, consider how experienced surfers engage and ride waves. First, they patiently observe how the waves are building and developing near them; when they sense there may be a good–and safe—one to ride, they paddle toward it, aligning their boards with the cresting wave; if it looks too strong or dangerous, they pull out and wait for another; if it looks good, they quickly paddle some more, hop on their board, and begin their ride.

Surfers accept that the waves, and not they, are in control; that they can easily be sent flying off their boards into crashing waters if they resist their flow. They know, however, that they can enjoy exhilarating rides by aligning, and gliding, with the waves.

It is easy to discern the practices and attitudes that are essential for skillfully and safely surfing or riding waves: awareness, observation, acceptance, patience, humility, trust, instincts and intuition, and the willingness to surrender or let go of control.

It’s not as easy to discern the practices and attitudes that obstruct riding waves: control, arrogance, high expectations, judgment, denial, limited thinking, and fear.

We will see in the pages ahead that the very same factors, or wave “enhancers”and “barriers,” strongly impact how we navigate our currents in work, love, friendships, parenting, aging, sports and performance, and creative endeavors.”

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The Illusions of High Expectations

Daniel A. Miller | March 31, 2021

When we expect too much of others, most often we are trying to change or control them in some manner. And in doing so, by definition, we aren’t accepting them as they are.

Simply put,“When you expect, you can’t accept.”

The Illusions of High Expectations

Many of us justify our expectations in the belief that we are “helping” others. That we know what’s good or best for them. But do we?

Aside from bordering on arrogance (and a shortage of humility), I have repeatedly found that I often don’t know what’s best for me, let alone others! From mentoring others, I know I’m not alone in that.

Moreover, because such expectations place undue pressure on people to be other than who they are or do other than what they wish, resentment and fraying of relationships easily occur.

Who likes being told what to do or how to act or what’s best for them? You are in effect telling them they are not “good enough.”

Upon closer (and a more honest) self-examination, it is more often the case that we feel we will be better off, or that our important “needs” will be met, if others act the way we want or expect them to.

This belief system warrants scrutiny. It’s more illusion, than reality.

When our focus and reliance is too much on others—which is where our expectations direct us–we lose sight of what we can do to make things better for ourselves. We thus risk stymieing our own growth and development.

In short, we give up the power to make our lives better.

Piercing the Illusions

In The Gifts of Acceptance, I discuss tools and strategies in some detail for moderating expectations aimed at trying to change or control others.

Included are some interrelated self-queries that have helped me pierce the illusions of my expectations—particularly of loved ones, family, and close relationships–and in the process become more accepting of them:

*Are there any unfulfilled needs of mine underlying my expectations?

*Can others realistically fulfill my needs—even if they wanted to?

*Will I truly be better off if others do or want as I expect?

*Is my happiness or well-being that dependent on others?

I encourage you to make the same (or similar) queries. Hopefully, they will help you release your expectations of others.

If you wish to explore this important subject further, below are four other posts that you may find helpful:

“5 Ways High Expectations Hurt You“

“How to Lower Family Expectations”

“Tips for Letting Go of High Expectations”

“Let Go of Control by Moderating Expectations”

In the meantime, remember to

Let It Go—and Accept “What Is!”

Danny

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My Personal Prayer for Acceptance

Daniel A. Miller | March 10, 2021

For eighteen years, the Serenity Prayer has been my personal prayer and acceptance guide.

“God, Grant Me the Serenity to Accept the Things I Cannot Change,

Courage to Change the Things I Can, and

The Wisdom to Know the Difference.”

The first thing I do upon awakening in the morning is to get on my knees, place my hands on my bed, and recite these poetic phrases.

I then go outside and recite the Prayer again as I take in the beauty all around me.

This ritual brings me a sense of comfort and well-being as I start my day. It balances and grounds me as I deal with the day’s challenges and uncertainties.

I also love writing and sharing about the Serenity Prayer. In Losing Control, Finding Serenity I devote a chapter explaining how the Prayer helps remove the unhealthy compulsion to control. In The Gifts of Acceptance, I include a chapter explaining how I apply the three phrases of the Prayer to specific situations and circumstances.

In this blog, I shared “How the Serenity Prayer Helps with the Coronavirus” and some ideas about “Optimizing the Benefits of the Serenity Prayer.”

Using the Serenity Prayer As an Acceptance Guide

I encourage you to try using the Serenity Prayer as an acceptance guide. If it feels foreign to you or seems simplistic, start with unimportant matters in the beginning. I think you will find that it is very soothing to just state the words aloud. It takes the edge off things for me, and I don’t think I’m alone in that.

As you begin experiencing the comfort and serenity that comes with accepting the things you cannot change, you will feel more confident in using the Serenity Prayer in times of greater struggles and challenges.

Please share your personal stories about the Serenity Prayer; how it has helped you; how and when you use it; and how it has changed your life.

In the meantime, remember to

Let It Go—and Accept “What Is”!

Danny

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The Genesis of The Gifts of Acceptance

Daniel A. Miller | February 23, 2021

The genesis of The Gifts of Acceptance:Embracing People and Things as They Are began with a short blog post I wrote almost 10 years ago titled “5 Good Reasons for Accepting People As They Are.”

The post quickly attained coveted first page appearance for Google searches on acceptance, and retains its high ranking to this day. The response motivated me to continue writing about the many aspects of the acceptance dynamic over the next five years, eventually culminating in the publication of the book in 2018.

The book won multiple book awards and has been an Amazon best seller now going on three years, for which I am deeply grateful.

It has been even more gratifying to see how the need for acceptance in our lives and the world has resonated so strongly with readers from around the world, as well as with reviewers and media hosts. That need is greater and more challenging than ever before, particularly in the highly divisive social and political arenas.

I am republishing that first acceptance post today and will publish others in the coming weeks and months. I hope you find them helpful!

5 Good Reasons for Accepting People as They Are

In the meantime, remember to

Let It Go–and Accept “What Is!”

Danny

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Truths and Tips #9: Letting Go of Control

Daniel A. Miller | December 16, 2020

Q: What is wrong with trying to control the circumstances of our lives?

A: It’s important to distinguish between those circumstances that are set or fixed and those that are not. There is a broad range of events and circumstances that we cannot change or control: computer glitches, equipment failures, flight cancelations, and bureaucratic inefficiencies, to name just a few.

We also can’t change people’s basic natures and ways–as much as we may wish to. (more…)

Truths and Tips #8: Letting Go of Control

Daniel A. Miller | December 7, 2020

Q: Romantic relationships can be stressful, especially when we try to “improve” or change our partner’s behavior and habits. How can accepting our loved one for who they are enhance our love bond?

A: I don’t think any of us like being told by our mates how we should act or behave, or to be someone other than whom we are. Such pressure makes us feel “less than” or not good enough. Who want to feel that in matters of the heart? (more…)

Truths and Tips #6: Letting Go of Control

Daniel A. Miller | November 17, 2020

Q: Is it difficult to let go of control? Where does one begin?

A: Letting go of control can be extremely difficult because we have been raised with control; it is taught to us and all around us. Our parents, bosses, teachers, and religious leaders—much of what they do is control based.

Control is thus what we have come to know. It is what we think works for us (which I strongly refute in Losing Control, Finding Serenity). As such, it is a deeply engrained habit—one in which we feel very uncomfortable and even insecure in giving up.

The first step in changing the propensity to control is to become better aware of your controlling ways. Many of us have little inkling of how much, how often, and in what we ways we try to control people and things around us. We can see it in others, but much less so in ourselves.

Control can be subtle. Suggesting or reminding too frequently, encouraging too strongly, or preaching too intently are common control devices. Enabling our children and loved ones is another.

The “decontrol” process starts with an honest inventory of your controlling patterns. To do this, you have to reign in your ego and muster the courage to see yourself as you are—blemishes and all.

For example, are you typically judgmental? Highly opinionated? Overly critical? Too aggressive?

Questions to Ponder:

“Can you identify two ways you controlled today?”

“Are you fearful of what might happen if you let go of a pressing matter for a day?

Please share your answers with me!

In the meantime, remember to

Let It Go—and Accept “What Is!”

Danny

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Letting Go of Control Truths and Tips (#2)

Daniel A. Miller | October 5, 2020

Truth and Tips Q&A #1 explained how fear was the prime driver of our need to control others and outcomes. Q&A #2 is a logical follow up:

Q:How can we reduce our fears so that we will control less? (Part One)

A: Effectively reducing our fears is usually a multi-step process. It begins with clearly identifying what they are. For many, this is not so easy, because our fears easily bask in our lack of awareness. We tend to attribute the anxiety and discomfort that fears generate to other things. It is much easier to look elsewhere than it is to look within us.

Thus, one of the best ways to detect this most tricky of emotions is to do a fear inquiry. Recall the day’s events as specifically as possible. The fear-invoking event will be lurking in there somewhere. More often than not, it is something you totally blocked—and why not. It was too painful to deal with at the time.

In doing your fear inquiry, be aware of any anger or resentment you may be harboring. Anger is commonly an aggressive response to our fears, and it too, invokes controlling actions. Still another sure sign is when you procrastinate in addressing important tasks and challenges.

Our fears can also have a strong physical presence. Note where they may be located—tight chest and stomach, painful lower back, or somewhere else—and try to “feel” their presence. As you do, breathe in and out slowly, and they will usually be revealed–and even ease.

Once we have a clearer understanding of our fears and how they impact us, we can then begin to find ways to defuse them. One effective way is to confront and process them. I will offer some tools to help you do that in my next post.

Until then, I will leave you with two

Questions to Ponder:

“Did you discover any “unknown” fears during your fear inquiry? What were they?”

“Did knowing what they were lessen their impact?”

Please share your responses with me!

In the meantime, remember to

“Let It Go—and Accept “What Is!”

Danny

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Letting Go of Judgment in The Time of Coronavirus

Daniel A. Miller | June 9, 2020

Letting Go of Judgment in The Time of Coronavirus

(6^th in an ongoing series on “Acceptance in The Time of Coronavirus“)

I’ve always struggled with being too judgmental of others. I’ve worked a lot on being less so, but it takes constant awareness—not only that I’m judging, but also how it impacts my overall well being and serenity. (More on that later)

I’ve noticed that my inclination to judge others has risen in The Time of Coronavirus. It is likely due to my having greater “dis-ease” and impatience these days—and sometimes getting agitated over little things. (See my post, “Accepting Agitated People in The Time of Coronavirus”)

As a result, I’m more likely to judge or question why people are doing or acting the way they do. I forget that these are not normal times, and most people are often not acting “normally.”

A recent example is when I reacted strongly when a good friend asked me to share a video with my friends in which a disgruntled scientist made some disparaging remarks about a well known scientist who has played a prominent public role in combating the COVID 19 Pandemic.

After viewing the video, I had doubts about the veracity of some of its accusatory statements. I found several articles that provided evidence disputing the scientist’s main claims and admonished my friend about promoting the video to his friends without first fact checking the claims.

I sent him the articles, but that didn’t defray him. He was convinced about the merits–and adamant–about what he was doing.

The truth of the matter is that I judged my friend harshly for his beliefs and actions. I felt the video was untruthful and wanted him to stop—signs of a true controller and judger!

When I later thought about my actions, certain things about judging became clearer to me.

*Most judgments serve no real purpose or benefit. It’s unlikely to change the way people are or act. If anything, it puts them on the defensive and they are likely to resist and dig in harder.

That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t express our views and beliefs on matters that are important to us, but rather to not dismiss or disparage others’ views without first making an effort to listen and hear them out. (See my post, “Acceptance Conversations as Peacemakers”)

*We are not accepting others for who and how they are.

I didn’t have to approve or condone what my friend was saying or doing, but I should have accepted he had the right to express his own views and make his own choices, provided they didn’t harm me or those I care about.

The short of it is,

When we judge, we can’t accept.

*We are often being righteous and arrogant. There is a certain “know-it-all-ness” when we judge. We believe we know better than others and what the “real” truth is. However, we easily disregard our own personal biases. I certainly was that way with my friend.

In deed, I don’t think

A judger has ever been accused of having too much humility!

Even when we wish to judge less, we are often unaware that we are in fact judging. Judging takes many forms. Criticism, curtness, withdrawal, smugness, and having unreasonable expectations are just a few of the ways we voice our judgments.

In many ways, judging is a counterproductive diversionary tactic. It diverts us from taking stock of those parts of us, especially our shortcomings, that don’t serve us well. It further diverts us from making an effort to improve upon them.

At its core, judging is a controlling mechanism that harms primarily ourselves.

I thus encourage you to temper your judgments and try to be more understanding and tolerant of others. In doing so, you will control less and accept more, and thereby enjoy greater peace and serenity in The Time of Coronavirus—and afterwards, as well!

In the meantime, remember to

Let It Go—and Accept “What Is!”

Danny

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Managing Expectations in The Time of Coronavirus

Daniel A. Miller | May 6, 2020

(4^th in an ongoing series on Acceptance in The Time of Coronavirus)

I’ve often talked and written about the importance of moderating our expectations if we wish to control less and accept more. High expectations can hurt us in a lot of ways. ( See my post,“5 Ways High Expectations Hurt You”)

A recent occurrence made me realize that it’s even more important to manage our expectations in The Time of Coronavirus, given all the uncertainty and unknowns, and the emotional tolls it has taken on people.

A few days ago I visited my local pharmacy to pick up two prescriptions I had phoned in the week before. Although the only customer in the store, I waited (with mask on) for what felt like an eternity while the pharmacist was speaking with another customer on the phone.

Truth be told, the wait was actually only about 5 minutes, but I found myself getting anxious and impatient. I had wanted to get in and out of there.

When the pharmacist finally got off the phone, she informed me that only one of the prescriptions was ready, because the other one had expired.

Oh brother, I told myself. I would now have to come back again when the other prescription was filled. Fortunately, I “cooled off.” After all, the pharmacist was a sweet, kind person, who was doing her best during The Time of Coronavirus!

When I later reflected on the incident, I realized my expectations created my angst. Specifically, I expected that

It would be a quick and easy pick-up since I came several days after the pharmacist told me the prescriptions would be ready.

That she would have called my doctor for a renewal, as she had done in the past.

She would tell the phone caller that she would call back after taking care of her store customer—me. (Pretty presumptuous of me!)

And the all-inclusive expectation:

That everything would be (and operate) the same as it had before coronavirus. (Really?)

I know this is a silly little story, but these everyday types of occurrences can easily affect our serenity, if we let them, because of our expectations.

As I’ve said before, we need to cut people some slack!

So, bottom line, we need to manage our expectations better, lest we become agitated ourselves. (See “Accepting Agitated People in The Time of Coronavirus”)

These are not normal times, and our so-called “normal” expectations don’t serve us well now, if they ever did!

Simply put, they aren’t healthy for us.

So I encourage you to moderate, manage, and lower your expectations during the Time of Coronavirus. My post “Let Go of Control by Moderating Your Expectations” will help you do that.

In the meantime,

Let It Go—and Accept “What Is!”

Danny

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